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Published:August 22nd, 2011 19:17 EST
Love in the Age of Terrorism

Love in the Age of Terrorism

By SOP newswire2

10th Anniversary Event on September 8th connects children of disaster in New York, Haiti and Japan for healing

As the  10th anniversary of 9/11 looms, noted New York clinical  psychologist Dr. Judy Kuriansky is available to talk  about the impact of this marker event on couples and  children worldwide, and about an upcoming event  connecting children in trauma zones. Dr. Judy, as she is  fondly known from TV and radio, provided mental health  support at Ground Zero and the Family Assistance Center  after the World Trade Center attacks and was featured in  a Red Cross PSA and in Germany`s Max  magazine and Frankfurter Allgemeine  Sonntagszeitung. In her Global Kids  Connect Project, kids from trauma zones exchange dolls  to show caring, e.g. kids in Japan made dolls brought to  Haiti, and kids in Haiti made dolls brought to Japan. On  September 8th, kids in New York City will make dolls for  kids in Haiti and Japan (see  below).

Dr.  Judy can address the following points:

  • What are "Anniversary  Reactions?" Reactions around the date of a past  traumatic event or emotionally charged episode when  individuals re-experience strong symptoms.
  • How have relationships  changed because of 9/11? In a survey, 2/3 of  women and men want more connection with their partner,  but others feel life is meaningless so they withdraw  from love and sex and don`t want children. Dr. Judy  says to expect opposite reactions: "Come closer"  versus "Go away."
  • What are the dangers of  the 10th anniversary for couples? Dr. Judy says expect  "CoupleTrouble" from different coping styles:  "Avoiders" who want to escape being reminded about the  event versus "Talkers" who want to review every detail  and feeling.
  • What are ways to make your  relationship better on the 9/11 anniversary? Dr. Judy  gives 10 tips, including: accept differences; help  each other feel safe; hug and hold.
  • What is the danger for  singles? Some singles may engage in "Terror Sex"-  casual sex, since "There may not be a future, so why  not have a great time now?"
  • What are the dangers for  children? Exposed to intense media and public  coverage, kids can have nightmares and stomach aches,  and refuse to go to school.
  • How will the 10th  anniversary impact people around the world? Helping  after many disasters (Hurricane Katrina, the  Asian tsunami, bombings in the Middle East,  earthquakes in Haiti and China), Dr. Judy notes  similar reactions.
  • What is "guerrilla  counseling" after 9/11? People at the site asked Dr.  Judy questions, e.g. a man wanted to calm his  girlfriend`s fears, a teen needed help for her  depressed buddy, a woman wanted to convince her  husband they should have another baby.
  • Can so much media  attention about 9/11 be harmful to people? Yes,  past traumatic memories and fears of all kinds can be  triggered; if so, seek professional  counsel.

Dr.  Judy can also talk about:

  • Her professional projects  and personal experiences related to 9/11 and how  helping changed her life. Dr. Judy was a first  responder, providing mental health support, after 9/11  at Ground Zero and at the Family Assistance Center. As  a result of this experience, her career and life took a new  perspective. Also, from being at Ground Zero, she has  some lung problems and is part of The World Trade  Center Medical Monitoring Program for first  responders.
    Children are helped by  knowing that other kids experiencing trauma care about  them. In the Global Kids Connect Project that Dr. Judy  founded, dolls are exchanged among children in Haiti,  Japan and New York.

A workshop will be given, open to  press coverage: 

WHAT: The 4th annual Child and Family Institute Back-to-School Event

WHEN: September 8th from 3-6 p.m.

WHERE: St. Luke`s Hospital, Babcock Cafeteria, 419 West 114 Street, NYC.

  • Music heals. An anthem written after  9/11 by Dr. Judy and composer Russell Daisey, called  "Towers of Light," honors the heroes and offers hope  and healing. Named for the two beams that shine  annually over Ground Zero where the Twin Towers fell,  the song has been performed at the World Trade Center  Responder Day, United Nations conferences and the  Hiroshima International Peace Summit (where the Dalai  Lama called it "very powerful") and will be performed  on the 10th anniversary of 9/11 at the Interfaith  Memorial at Pier 40 on the Hudson River. Kuriansky  is available for interviews as of August 24. Also  available: Video of performances of  the "Towers of Light" song at memorials; an MP3  version; and live performances.

A Red Cross PSA (video)  produced after 9/11 of selected individuals`  experience of 9/11, including Dr. Judy.

Video footage and photos  of the Global Kids Connect Project in Haiti and  Japan.

For more information,  see

Dr. Judy Kuriansky, Ph.D. is a clinical  psychologist and relationship expert, teacher  at Columbia University Teachers College and  United Nations Main NGO representative who has  done disaster relief post-9`11 and around  the world after disasters in Haiti, Sri Lanka, China and  the Middle East. A former reporter for  WCBS-TV, WABC-TV and host of CNBC-TV "Money and  Emotions" and veteran radio advice talk show host of the  popular "LovePhones" show, she now appears often as a TV  commentator. A former columnist for the Daily News  website and the South China Morning Post, and author of  many books including "The Complete Idiots Guide to a  Healthy Relationship," she was recently awarded for  Lifetime Achievement in Global Peace and Tolerance by  the Friends of the United Nations.

The  Global Kids Connect Project is a  cross-cultural humanitarian initiative promoting healing  and comfort for children after disasters that includes a  workshop of stress reduction techniques, cultural  experiences and exchange of dolls. Partners include  HappyDoll Inc., a Japanese-founded organization that has  exchanged dolls for orphans and other children; the  UN-accredited International Association of Applied  Psychology; Haiti Action Youth for the United Nations;  and New York`s St. Luke`s Hospital.

"Towers  of Light" is a song from The Stand Up For  Peace Project, an initiative that promotes peace,  understanding and healing worldwide, co-founded by  renowned psychologist Dr. Judy Kuriansky and acclaimed  pianist/singer/songwriter Russell Daisey, who has  performed for American presidents and world dignitaries,  including Bill Clinton and George H.W. Bush, former  Canadian Prime Minister Brian Mulroney, and the Chiniya  Lama of Nepal.