March 10th, 2012 14:42 EST
How to Tell Someone You Have OCD, Without Embarrassing Yourself
When I was a child, before I`d ever heard of the term obsessive compulsive disorder, I didn`t know what to make of my thoughts, other than that they were embarrassing and had to be kept secret at all costs.
Fortunately today, OCD is well recognized, so most people have heard of it. However, without personally experiencing the horror of OCD symptoms, it`s unlikely that others will understand the serious grip that OCD has on a person. This is only made worse if your particular set of symptoms falls in the embarrassing end of the spectrum, like the woman who avoided seeking help for twenty-four years because she was too embarrassed to reveal she thought she had semen on her hands.
To add insult to embarrassment, gathering the courage to describe your OCD symptoms out loud can be a huge anti-climax. Words are insufficient and do little more than trivialize the agonizing vice-like hold that OCD thoughts and compulsions have on your brain.
To quote from A Life Lived Ridiculously:
I just didn`t see how I could possibly explain all this to another person such that they would get it. "Hi, doc, I`m here because I don`t like the lampshades in my apartment and I can`t decide where the TV should go.` "I`m a doctor, not an interior designer,` is the response I would expect. "Yeah, but it really bothers me.` "Well, my wife won`t let me take the pool table out of the basement and that really bothers me.`
So here are some ways that you might use to broach the subject of your OCD:
1) Introduce the conversation by talking about some of the many famous people who openly have OCD. David Beckham, Miley Cyrus and Daniel Radcliffe have talked openly about their struggles with the condition.
Well respected historical figures, such as Charles Darwin, Samuel Johnson and Florence Nightinglale, were also thought to have OCD.
This allows you to gage whether your audience knows about OCD and also allows you to get some clues as to whether your audience is likely to be sympathetic or not.
2) Draw people`s attention to the well known TV programs that deal with OCD.
- Detective Monk television series
- Jack Nicholson in As Good As It Gets.
3) I read an interesting article / novel about OCD. With so much information online and in bookstores, it`s easy to inform people. Some great memoirs about OCD include:
Reading a memoir allows your audience to gain a deep insight into what it`s like to live every day with OCD.
4) It happened to a friend of mine. Talk about your symptoms as though they were someone else`s, Then gage the reaction of your audience.
5) If you don`t wish to speak face to face with someone, you may always email links about OCD.
6) Explain to others that OCD is a physical illness, no less so than hypothyroidism or heart disease. Understand that OCD is a biological disorder of the brain and learn the neurological pathways (the OCD circuit). Eg the error centers of the brain are overactive due to a lack of serotonergic activity in the orbitofrontal cortex. Some great resources include:
7) Join online forums and support groups, and practice talking about it with other sufferers until talking about it becomes second nature.
You may also encounter persons with more moving ways to describe their daily torment, which you can adopt when describing yours.
Will any of these tips make your audience really understand your pain? Probably not. But it will help you to inform others in a way that is easily accessible to them and hopefully not so embarrassing for you.
Dr Annabelle R Charbit
Author of A Life Lived Ridiculously: When a girl with obsessive compulsive disorder, falls in love with a sociopath, she must fight for her sanity and her life
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