March 28th, 2012 16:29 EST
What to Do When Your Spouse Stresses You Out
What can you do when your spouse stresses you out? Instead of yelling at one another, there are ways to reduce conflicts and your stresses. Here are some suggestions on how to not let your spouse stress you out.
Talk with your spouse about your problem. If you can, ask your spouse if she is having any problems and if there is anything you can do about it. Talking with your spouse is very important and can prevent potential conflicts from turning into arguments.
Build on your common interests. When dealing with your spouse, focus on the things that you both agree on. Use that as your base and then start talking about some of the problems that you are experiencing. Learn to compromise with one another to help solve some of your problems.
Learn effective techniques to manage your stresses. There are many ways to deal with your stresses. Take a walk or do something you like to do to get a fresh perspective on things. Another good technique in managing your stresses is to create a list of positive statements. When you get depressed, read those positive statements. This will help you to relax.
Talk to a marriage counselor if you can. It can be valuable to get additional insights from a third party. A marriage counselor can provide much assistance to your current problems. Many couples get help from a counselor so do not feel ashamed that your getting help. There is nothing wrong with getting professional help.
Be persistent in solving your disagreements. Do not let them build up over time. When you see a red flag, do something about at the present time. Confront potential conflicts early.
All couples go through arguments and disagreements in their marriages. You are no different. The key is to communicate with one another and learn to work together when something doesn`t work out. Remember that you are a team and that you need to work like a team.
Stan Popovich is the author of "A Layman`s Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods " an easy to read book that presents a general overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/
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