July 16th, 2013 15:38 EST
The Best Way Of Getting Out Of An Unhappy Relationship
For most of us, there are times when we have to get out of an unhappy relationship.
For me it was tough, but I found that in the long run I was better off. Here are some of the things i did to help manage the stress and anxiety of ending a relationship in which I was not happy.
The first thing I did was remind myself why I ended things. I realized that spending time with someone who made me unhappy was not good for me and that in the long run I was better off. I also gave myself some time to get over the previous relationship. I realized that I would feel better over time. I made it a habit to take it one day at a time.
I also tried to remind myself that I would meet other people and make new friends. I went to different places where I could meet other people. I realized that sitting at home would not have helped me to meet other people. I also made it a habit to spend some more time with my relatives and current friends. Spending time with people I knew helped me a lot.
Instead of staying home and moping, I tried to develop new interests. For example, I wanted to learn how to ski but never had the time to learn. I realized that I had the time to learn and that this would be a great time to meet new people and get some exercise. If you`re not the outdoor type, you could find a new indoor hobby. Join a book club, learn to play bridge or take classes at your local university. Determine your interests and follow through in developing a new hobby.
I also learned to manage my negative thinking. When I felt depressed, I tried to read positive statements that made me feel good. There are many good books that can help uplift your spirits when things are not going your way. I made a habit to make a small notebook of positive statements. When I get stressed out I read my positive statements in my notebook.
I also realized that If I had any trouble I could talk to counselor. A counselor could give me additional insights on how to get over a relationship. This would be a good way to learn more about myself in the process.
Remember that just because you ended things with one person it does not mean that you will be alone for the rest of your life. People come and go and with that relationships develop and end. The key is to be the best person you can be and just be yourself. You will feel better a lot faster if you stay active and make the effort to make new friends. In addition, get into a relationship that works best for you and not because you are afraid to be alone.
Stan Popovich is the author of "A Layman`s Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods" - an easy to read book that presents a general overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com