July 20th, 2013 18:34 EST
The Best Way To Handle Gossip
As an author of a managing fear book, I have dealt with gossip at my job and personal life. I tend not to get involved with people who like to gossip on a regular basis, however I found it difficult to stay neutral. Here are some suggestions on how to deal gossip in the work force and in your personal life.
The first step I found very useful is not to say anything that will be held against you. If you talk or make a comment about somebody, the chances are that the person will find out. When your friends start to gossip about others, the best thing is not to say anything.
If someone asks you what you think of a certain person or situation, the rule of thumb is not to say anything that you would not want to become public knowledge. If forced to make a comment, the best way is to say thing that is generalized and vague and where you wouldn`t be afraid if it became public knowledge.
If you happen to see that your friends are talking about others, the best way is not to get involved in their conversation. A person can just say that they are busy and don`t have time to talk. This way you won`t be forced into the conversation. This has worked for me in the past.
Remember to pick your friends wisely. Some people are just bitter and all they do is bring people down. If you hang out with them, chances are they will eventually talk about you. The best thing is to hang out with people who act professional and who are honest and friendly.
Nobody wants to be alone however hanging out with the popular people who are rude and negative won`t help you in the long run. In my opinion I believe its best to be yourself and to spend time with people who like you for who you are. Remember that how you treat others will dictate how others will treat you.
Stan Popovich is the author of "A Layman`s Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods" - an easy to read book that presents a general overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com