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Published:March 28th, 2009 12:48 EST
Middle School Bans Touching

Middle School Bans Touching

By Robert Paul Reyes

"A Connecticut middle school principal has laid down the law: You put your hands on someone -- anyone -- in any way, you`re going to pay.

A violent incident that put one student in the hospital has officials at the Milford school implementing a "no touching" policy, according to a letter written by the school`s principal.

East Shore Middle School parents said the change came after a student was sent to the hospital after being struck in the groin." http://wcbstv.com/local/school.bans.hugs.2.969949.html


It`s almost impossible for a boy to survive childhood without getting kicked in the groin or punched in the face. It`s almost a rite of passage: I got kicked in the nuts and it hurt like hell, but I survived!

I`m not condoning violence, I`m explaining that it`s an inescapable part of growing up. Whenever a student resorts to violence you suspend him, but you don`t mete out collective punishment by banning touching.

A hug or a high-five is not equivalent to a kick to the groin. Innocent hugs and pats on the back shouldn`t be outlawed, these expressions of joy and friendship come naturally to children. Requiring kids to enjoy recess or sports without touching is like demanding that adults have sex without touching.

Principal Catherine Williams overreacted, and I hope the outraged parents will force her to back down. I don`t think a male principal would have made a mountain out of a molehill. There isn`t a guy who hasn`t been kicked in the family jewels, and we know that it may hurt like hell, but it`s no big thing.

Maybe Principal Catherine just needs a big hug so that she`ll chill. I`d like to give her a bear hug or a kiss on the cheek so that she will change her mind and let children be children.

A violent incident that put one student in the hospital has officials at the Milford school implementing a "no touching" policy, according to a letter written by the school`s principal.

East Shore Middle School parents said the change came after a student was sent to the hospital after being struck in the groin." http://wcbstv.com/local/school.bans.hugs.2.969949.html


It`s almost impossible for a boy to survive childhood without getting kicked in the groin or punched in the face. It`s almost a rite of passage: I got kicked in the nuts and it hurt like hell, but I survived!

I`m not condoning violence, I`m explaining that it`s an inescapable part of growing up. Whenever a student resorts to violence you suspend him, but you don`t mete out collective punishment by banning touching.

A hug or a high-five is not equivalent to a kick to the groin. Innocent hugs and pats on the back shouldn`t be outlawed, these expressions of joy and friendship come naturally to children. Requiring kids to enjoy recess or sports without touching is like demanding that adults have sex without touching.

Principal Catherine Williams overreacted, and I hope the outraged parents will force her to back down. I don`t think a male principal would have made a mountain out of a molehill. There isn`t a guy who hasn`t been kicked in the family jewels, and we know that it may hurt like hell, but it`s no big thing.

Maybe Principal Catherine just needs a big hug so that she`ll chill. I`d like to give her a bear hug or a kiss on the cheek so that she will change her mind and let children be children.