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Published:May 1st, 2008 08:16 EST
Hey, Glenn Brandon Burke, What Should I Do?

Hey, Glenn Brandon Burke, What Should I Do?

By Glenn Brandon Burke (Mentor/Speaker)

Hey, Glenn Brandon Burke, What Should I Do?
(Weekly Advice Column)
Glenn Brandon Burke, M.A.Ed, is a 
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Dear Glenn:

Our son is being released this July from a 12 month jail sentence. He's 22 and prior to going to jail he had a drug and alcohol problem and never really held a job longer than a few weeks. We don't trust him or want him back in our house. What should we do?

Thank you.

Untrusting Parents

Dear Parents:

From what you wrote, it seems as though you've made up minds. However, since you did write me, I have to take the assumption that you love your son, and there may be a possible thought that you may allow him to return home. With that said, here's what you should do:

1. Have a serious talk with your son and set some ground rules.

2. If he still has a drug and alcohol problem, get him into a program.

3. Find a college or trade school where he can get the education in a field in which he enjoys.

I believe that people who "want" to change, will. If your son wants a second chance, he will rise to the occasion, follow your rules, become clean and sober, and get an education. But, if he doesn't follow your rules and falls back into his old habits, go with your initial thoughts -- kick his ass out the door.

Keep in mind that there are many great treatment programs and schools throughout America.

I hope your son takes advantage of your loving nature, follows your rules, and becomes a man who you are proud to call son.

Remember, everything we do is a choice!