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Published:July 8th, 2010 10:40 EST
Tempering Your Temper

Tempering Your Temper

By Tony Graff

In my perusal of Facebook, many of my friends had become fans of a particular statement, hence the reason it appeared on my page. When I read the statement, "He broke her heart so she broke his XBOX, who cried harder?" the entire thing reeked of a lack of common sense. 

Since most of the people who "liked" this page were teenagers, I`m taking it from their perspective. While breaking up with someone, or the various stupidities that cause heartache is nothing to sneeze at, and is emotional devastating, it`s not against the law. High school drama, and dating, is a learning experience, so negative circumstances aren`t unexpected. Getting yourself arrested for vandalism, however, would be expected, if someone hellbent on revenge targeted even a coveted video game system. 

This reaches an even bigger scale when those teenagers become an adult. In 2008, country music star Carrie Underwood came out with an inspiring song called "Before He Cheats." This has similar circumstances to the XBOX scenario described before, only she`s trashing a truck and sounds rather proud of it, claiming "maybe next time he`ll think before he cheats." 
No, I`m pretty confident he`ll think of you while a judge decides to let you pay for the damages on his truck, getting fingerprinted at the police station, and hearing the sentencing for vandalism and destruction of property. Your revenge sounds pretty fulfilled, doesn`t it? Regardless of what common sense would dictate, the song cause a mad string of vandalisms, many women following word for word what Carrie Underwood described in her emotionally fueled mayhem:
I dug my key into the side
Of his pretty little souped-up 4 wheel drive
Carved my name into his leather seat
I took a Louisville slugger to both head lights
Slashed a hole in all 4 tires
And maybe next time he`ll think before he cheats
Maybe next time she`ll think before doing something that will have lasting effect, like a criminal record. There`s a reason things like this are called crimes of passion: the perpetrator isn`t thinking with their mind, but with their emotions, and as much as we love them, write about them, and need them, emotions don`t care about the law, but about feeling satisfied. That`s why every single friend can empathize with the situation, very few would suggest acts of violence against the person, or his XBOX or truck, as the case may be. 
Inevitably, we`re going to have highly emotional circumstances. Setting aside all religious philosophy, though there is plenty, let`s give common sense a high five and spend the money that would go to pay for the destruction caused by acts of passion, and buy ice cream. It`s cheaper, tastes better, and counts as a comfort food.