January 15th, 2008 05:39 EST
Is Your Husband Tuning You Out
She talks for thirty minutes, telling him every detail of her day. He has three great ideas for how to fix her problems. "Why can't you just listen to me?" she asks. She pulls back, he gives up, and the marriage suffers. The problem? He's a man. And she expects a girlfriend. She could play the blame game. Or dish out the cold treatment. Or find a better way...
In their new book, How to Get Your Husband to Listen to You: Uncovering How Men Communicate (Multnomah, January 2008), Nancy Cobb and Connie Grigsby offer practical solutions for wives seeking clear, meaningful communication with their men. A follow-up to their best-selling book, How to Get Your Husband to Talk to You, the pair has applied their characteristic blend of biblical principle, personal experiences, and to-the-point illustrations to the other half of the communication equation.
"As wives, we often want our men to listen to us the way our mothers, sisters, and girlfriends listen to us. The problem is that while men have no trouble relating to other men, they have a huge problem relating to women because they aren't doing what women think they should do," Cobb states.
"We may be tempted to ask, 'Why can't a man be more like a woman?' There is a simple answer: men don't want to be more like women," Grigsby adds. "They're born male, and they're hard-wired to grow into men. Such behavior would be completely unnatural and foreign to them."
This book is not about changing a man's God-given way of thinking. Rather, it teaches women how to initiate healthy communication and enjoy the blessing of a husband who wants to listen. Readers will discover specific ways to:
Help their husbands value what they say and how they say it
Understand what their husbands really want
Rebuild love and respect in their marriages
Become a wife whose husband wants her insights
Give their husbands the desire to listen to their needs, their words, and their hearts
This entertaining and insightful book is a must-have for anyone who advises women or couples. The authors' astute observations of the hilarious, often problematic, differences between the sexes and their prescription for healing the most broken of relationships will empower any wife who is willing to change.