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Published:March 30th, 2006 09:08 EST
Don't Be One of The 3 million in The Dark

Don't Be One of The 3 million in The Dark

By Clarista Griggs

Developing a healthy intimate and sexual relationship requires meeting and understanding the needs of the participants through acceptance, communication, and responsible stimulative satisfaction.  Mutual physical acceptance creates confidence in achieving an acceptable comfort level, in intimacy that allows each individual to communicate and participate freely. Communication cultivates a working knowledge of a partner`s physical and emotional desires and needs, resulting in pleasure. 

Mental stimulation triggers pleasing thoughts as physical stimulation triggers a direct, erratic, and unpredictable fulfillment. A healthy and well-developed intimate and sexual relationship is based upon the fulfillment of the involved individuals. When two individuals are seriously involved, there tends to be sexual tension, whether you are a Christian and want to wait until you are married or not. Communicating efficiently with each other about your individual responsibilities, as well as your responsibilities as a couple, to sex plays a major role in having and keeping a healthy relationship.

Safe sex starts with you. Choosing a fertility control method can be tough at times, but it has to be done. Of course staying abstinent is the best fertility method of all, but lets be real... it`s 2006, who`s not doing it?  Therefore, if you are having sex, find a method that best suits you. This topic is no longer taboo; we can talk about it openly with one another and not be frowned upon.

With organizations such as Planned Parenthood funding things like National Condom Week, which was held February 14-21, it is not uncommon or difficult to get information within our community.  This past Valentine`s Day, Planned Parenthood of San Diego & Riverside Counties worked with colleges, universities, and community organizations to distribute condoms and remind people that using condoms is an essential part of preventing unintended pregnancies and sexually transmitted infections.
We have been talking about this since middle school, so why are people still in the dark? Why, as Americans, are we still so irresponsible when it comes to sex? Still 3,000,000 women a year use NO contraception, accounting for 47% of unplanned pregnancies. In addition, 468,988 babies are born to teenage mothers each year. ( There are so many methods of contraception its not even funny: Abstinence, Male/ Female Condoms, birth control pills, diaphragm, IUD, Vaginal Spermicides, and they now even have the "day after" pill.

It all boils down to this: when a women finds out she is pregnant, her life will never be the same again, no matter what choice she makes. In most cases, a woman has three choices: the choice to parent, the choice to place for adoption, and the choice to abort.

Making the choice to parent is an exciting, but overwhelming decision. You have to consider certain things like:  

Will the father and his family be there to support the child and me?
What type of support could they provide? (i.e.: financial, role model, childcare)
How would my family help? (i.e.: financially, childcare, living arrangements)
Could I live with family or another single mom?
How could I share responsibilities with those I live with?
What would it take to live on my own with my baby?
How can I continue to reach my goals to make a better life for me and my child?

There are so many broken homes nowadays where children are growing up with only one parent, or the parents are constantly fighting. Do you really want to raise a child in a broken home? Going the adoption route would be an extremely hard decision, as well as an abortion. However, a woman has a right to all these choices, and the decisions that come with them. People in politics like Samuel Alito, President Bush`s Supreme Court nominee and whom The Senate Judiciary Committee approved the nomination of, DOES NOT SUPPORT a woman`s constitutional right to abortion.  Judge Samuel A. Alito Jr. wrote, "the Constitution does not protect a right to an abortion" in a 1985 document.  Planned Parenthood, along with many Californians, strongly opposes the nomination of Samuel Alito to the Supreme Court.

What would life really be like if women could not have the right to an abortion? Surprisingly, a Majority of Californians Support Existing Abortion-Related Laws About two-thirds of California adults support the state`s existing abortion-related laws and think that those laws could even be relaxed to allow greater access to abortion. (