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Published:October 17th, 2006 11:26 EST
Success is a Myth Significance is Reality!

Success is a Myth Significance is Reality!

By Simon Bailey (Mentor/Columnist)

In recent months, many people have congratulated me on my success. " I`ve graciously thanked them, while in my head saying, So what! " You see, for years, my entire life and business were all about pursuing success. Be successful. Succeed against all odds. Get all you can and never stop until you have it. Well, I can honestly say that I`ve been extremely blessed to experience what many would call success. But I also discovered along the way a tremendous void. There was an emptiness that I didn`t understand. Something was missing, but I couldn`t put my finger on it.

Then I read something about Al Capone, the notorious crime figure and original Scarface " from the 1930s. When asked by an interviewer why he committed violent acts, Capone replied, All I ever wanted to do in life was be significant. " When I first read this, I was blown away. I`d pegged him as someone who would have desired success " fame, fortune, money. But no, his desire and his intensity were wrapped up in being significant. Granted, he sought signficance in all the wrong ways, but his life is a powerful testament to the innate human yearning to be significant.

The word significant " first appeared around 1580 and was described as having meaning, force or energy. I, too, have decided that I want more than mere success "I want to be significant. (Rest assured, unlike Capone, I choose to only pursue positive significance.) In my opinion, success is a myth and significance is reality.

Apparently, I`m not the only one who thinks that. There is a movement afoot in our world in which people are discovering that who they are is more important than what they do. Daniel Pink, author of A Whole New Mind, says, According to one recent U.S. survey, more than three out of five adults believe a greater sense of meaning would improve their own workplace. Likewise, 70 percent of respondents to an annual management survey by British think tank Roffey Park said they wanted their working lives to be more meaningful. "

And yet, despite the research that indicates most people desire to be significant, few take the steps to make it happen. Just a few days ago, one of my Brilliandeers (an individual who shapes and polishes another) asked me, Why do people operate in fear? Why do they choose to play small? " I thought about it and said without blinking an eye, Because they never truly believe that they are worthy enough to attract dream situations, incredible opportunities and favorable circumstances. They refuse to give themselves permission to be significant. "

My friends, if you desire more than success, give yourself permission to live a life full of meaning and significance! Say Yes! " to your life. Choose to believe at the very core of your being that you are worthy of a significant life. When you do, you will become a force to be reckoned with.

Pursuing Success Is "

Pursuing Significance Is "

Tiring

Reinvigorating

Shallow

Substantive

About stuff and things

About peace of mind

Meaningless to some

Meaningful to many

Moments of happiness

A lifetime of authentic happiness

Show me the money "

Giving money away

 In Break from the Pack: How to Compete in a Copycat Economy, author Oren Harari reminds us to be laser focused instead of being a floor lamp of diffused and misguided energy. I am convinced that when you give yourself permission to be significant, you stop chasing revenue opportunities that are incongruent or misaligned with your mission in life and business. If you want to grow your life or your business, then find meaning in everything that you think, do and say.

I recently received my copy of The Forbes 400 that lists the 400 wealthiest people in America. I couldn`t wait to see who had made the list, who had dropped off and who had remained on the list from last year. As I read the descriptions of these incredibly successful men and women, I couldn`t help but notice how many times I saw the following captions: Divorced, Twice divorced, Three times divorced and even Four times divorced. No doubt, these people were successful, but at what cost? I wondered, had they traded in a life of significance for a life of material success?

In the same list, I found Bill Gates and Warren Buffet, the number one and number two wealthiest individuals in the nation, respectively. These two are giving billions of dollars away to make the world a better place (as do countless others whose names may never appear in a magazine). In my opinion, that`s significant.

Which one are you pursuing today, success or significance?

Simon Says "Success is transient. Significance is timeless!

For More Information:  www.simontbailey.com