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Published:April 3rd, 2007 15:44 EST
Share The Love

Share The Love

By Kent Healy

I was waiting for my number to be called as I held my packages.  I’m always amazed at the number of people who still use “snail mail” everyday. What would the line be like at the post office if we didn’t have e-mail?!  Now that’s a scary thought!  But that’s a topic for another time and place.
Okay, back to the waiting game.
As I’m listening intently for my number, I can’t help but overhear some of the other conversations taking place right next to me. “I just can’t believe it,” the young lady said to her friend. “Why does she get to do that? I’ve worked so hard for so long and I haven’t had an opportunity like that before!” The man she was with nods his head and joins the pity party. “Yeah, I don’t get it either. It’s just not fair.”
Back and forth they went bickering about this person who—as I found out later—was simply given two tickets to a LA Lakers game. Not a big deal, right? Well, for these two individuals I overhead at the post office, it seemed like the end of the world was nearing. But that was a choice they made.
Deep down, we all know it, but often refuse to believe it: Life is not fair. So live with it! Sometimes there appears to be an imbalance of work and reward. Or maybe we witness surprising opportunities that present themselves to unlikely (or seemingly undeserving) individuals—but that, my friend, is just life. Sometimes it works in our favor and sometimes we’re not so lucky.
But there is one thing that increases our chances of experiencing more of what we want in life: Sharing our happiness, gratitude, and enthusiasm with those who are experiencing a “victory period” or “win” in their life. This is much easier said than done. I’ll admit that it’s tempting to feel jealous or envious when someone else is experiencing joy or success.
If somebody gets an A on test, a promotion at work, voted MVP on a sports team, or enters a new fulfilling relationship, we all face the same choice. We can feel envious and say, “Why couldn’t that happen to me?” or we can support them by being genuinely happy for them.
Sometimes we’re under the impression that sharing our happiness means giving our happiness away. This couldn’t be further from the truth.  When a candle’s flame lights another wick, nothing is lost. In fact, more light is generated. The same is true for happiness.
Have you ever been excited about something and shared it with someone else who in turn said, “Great. That’s just awesome,” but didn’t really mean it? It’s puts a damper on the experience and kills some of the thrill.  But haven’t you also experienced the opposite; where after sharing your excitement and happiness they gave it right back? It’s one of the greatest feelings in the world to find someone who genuinely shares your success and happiness with you.
Life is so much brighter when we can experience other people’s happiness with them. Life is not a constant battle against your neighbor to compete for the limited stash of imaginary “happy points.” The truth is, we have an endless supply of happiness, health, and wealth on our hands … so share the love! The next time somebody gets a “lucky break” or experiences a win in their life, avoid the temptation of feeling jealous or envious. Try to catch yourself in the act. Realize that by making the choice to share happiness with others, you are also ensuring more joy, gratitude, and pleasure for yourself and those around you.
Kent Healy is Co-author of “Cool Stuff” they should teach in school.  Although he receives a lot of mail, he will try to respond to every request. You can reach him directly at:   For free downloads and other “Cool Stuff”, you can visit him at: