What is orgasm? Differences between male and female orgasm

Sexual Knowledge

Do you know a lot about orgasms?

Actually, men and women feel orgasms differently.

Moreover, orgasm is not all the same male and female.

Understanding the difference between the two can help you have a more harmonious relationship with your partner and lead a more fulfilling sex life.

In this article, we will focus on these differences between men and women’s orgasms, explaining in detail ‘how do orgasms differ between men and women’ and ‘What are the benefits of understanding the differences between men’s and women’s orgasms’!

What is an orgasm

An orgasm is a sexual climax accompanied by a feeling of euphoria and great pleasure.

It occurs when sexual stimulation of the penis or vagina causes the muscles around the pelvic area to repeatedly contract at short intervals, releasing blood and muscle tension all at once.

Orgasm: A series of muscle contractions in the genital region that is accompanied by sudden release of endorphins. Orgasm normally accompanies male ejaculation as a result of sexual stimulation, and it also occurs in females as a result of sexual stimulation.

Definition of Orgasm

Both men and women feel a strong sensation of pleasure at this time.

The released muscles are relaxed and the limbs become slack and weak.

The heart rate increases and breathing becomes shallow and rapid. As a result, the brain does not get oxygen to the brain when you feel the orgasm and in some cases, you may faint.

Usually genital stimulation (penis for men or clitoris for women) causes orgasm, but if you are aroused by sexual dreams while you are asleep, orgasm can be triggered without physical stimulation.

Stimulation of the nipples or other sexual zones can also cause orgasm, but this is rare. In their lifetime, 80% of men and 40% of women will experience an orgasm in their dreams.

Not all people can feel orgasms evenly. Some people have anorgasmia, in which they cannot feel orgasms no matter how much sexual stimulation they receive.

This is more common in women and is a cause of distress. Some suffer from it and are so reluctant to have sex.

However, in some cases, you may not really have anorgasmia, but you may believe that you do.

We’ll talk more about this later, but it may be because women often need to develop their sexual orgasms in order to feel orgasmic, and that’s why.

Male Orgasms

When a man has an orgasm, it is often accompanied by ejaculation, which is called a wet orgasm.

In contrast, orgasms without ejaculation are called dry orgasms.

When a man feels a wet orgasm, the muscles around the pelvic sphincter, prostate, and penis contract rapidly, causing semen to be released through the penis.

When you feel a dry orgasm, it’s a little different.

Dry orgasms are primarily caused by prostate stimulation when performed by a healthy adult male. Stimulation and development of the prostate gland will allow you to experience orgasm from prostate stimulation.

Since there is no refractory period for wet orgasms as opposed to wet orgasms that have a refractory period, it is also possible to feel ‘multiple orgasms’, which are successive orgasms.

Boys before they experience Spermarche will inevitably have dry orgasms. Sexual dysfunction can also lead to dry orgasms in some cases.

Wet Orgasm

A male orgasm with ejaculation is called a wet orgasm.

Most people have an image of ejaculation when a man has an orgasm. But this was one form of male orgasm.

After a man has a wet orgasm, he has a period of rapid arousal and cooling down.

This is called the refractory period (post-cum clearity) and is inevitable in male biology.

It comes from the rapid release of the hormone prolactin after ejaculation.

When humans were still living close to wild animals, even during sex, they could be attacked by other carnivorous wildlife.

Therefore, men, who had the role of protecting their families and villages, were expected to take a sober perspective as soon as sex was over.

This is why the refractory period comes immediately after ejaculation.

Incidentally, the more intense the sex, the more intense the refractory period is.

On the other hand, however, the stronger the refractory period is, the more oxytocin (also called the love hormone) is released along with prolactin, and the more affection is felt by the partner after sex.

Dry Orgasm

Orgasms with ejaculation are called wet orgasms, whereas orgasms without ejaculation are called dry orgasms.

Dry orgasms are caused by stimulation of the prostate gland, also known as the “male G-spot”.

The prostate gland is an organ found only in men and has a vital role in helping to produce sperm and maintaining the quality of sperm.

Although not externally exposed, it can be stimulated by inserting a finger or toy through the anus.

Normally, wet orgasms do not allow for continuous orgasms. However.

With dry orgasms, which are felt by stimulating the prostate gland, you can have as many consecutive orgasms as a woman can have (multiple orgasms).

Many men become addicted to this multiple rush of pleasure.

In order to feel a dry orgasm, it is essential to develop the prostate gland.

If you don’t develop it, nothing will feel good. Basically, it’s developed by inserting an anal plug or anal dildo into the anus and keeping it in place.

It’s more like keeping the toy against the prostate rather than moving it in and out.

The development of the prostate gland takes quite a long time, sometimes several months for those who have been doing it for a long time.

Women’s Orgasm

Moving on to an explanation of female orgasm.

Female orgasm is divided into “external orgasm” which is felt by the clitoris, and “internal orgasm” which is felt by stimulation of the vaginal sex zone.

External orgasm is easier than internal orgasm, and many women who can come inside can’t come externally.

Internal orgasm is also called vaginal orgasm, and the existence of vaginal orgasm was first revealed in 1905 by the German psychiatrist Sigmund Freud, who claimed that vaginal orgasm existed.

Since then, other doctors and scholars have unraveled female orgasm through various discussions and studies. But female orgasm, which is still a mystery to this day, is an interesting thing.

External orgasm

The orgasm felt in the clitoris, the female sex organ, is called external orgasm.

The clitoris, located near the entrance of the female genitalia, is an organ that serves much the same function as the glans of the male penis and is thought to be there solely for the purpose of feeling pleasure.

Sexual stimulation of the clitoris causes it to become hypermiated and erect, just like the penis. When it is erect, it is also hard and swollen, just like the penis.

The pleasure felt by the clitoris is almost identical to that felt by a man through ejaculation. It is an eye-opening sensation, like electricity flowing through the lower body.

After you feel an orgasm in your external orgasm, there is no lingering sensation, but a crisp and momentary sensation.

You don’t need to develop to feel an orgasm on the clitoris.

This is because it is a very stimulus-sensitive organ, so even the slightest stimulation can cause you to feel pleasure.

It is surprising that there are people who learn the pleasure at an early age and start to masturbate.

However, it is often the case that the masturbation learned in childhood is not for the purpose of sexual desire relief but simply because it feels good.

Internal orgasm

There are two types of orgasms that are caused by stimulation of the sexual zones inside the vagina, which are: G-spot orgasms, which are caused by stimulation of the G-spot, and portio orgasms, which are caused by stimulation of the portio (vulva).

Strictly speaking, there are more sexual zones in the vagina, but these are the two main areas of pleasure.

The G-spot is one of the most famous sexual zones, along with the clitoris, so you may have heard of it.

It’s a slightly rough, coin-sized spot on the upper side of the vaginal wall, about 3-5 cm from the entrance of the vagina.

The G-spot can be a little confusing because it refers to an area, not a point, but an area. It is made up of a tissue called the urethral sponge and when stimulated, it can make you want to urinate.

Strictly speaking, the urge to urinate that you feel at this time is not from urine, but rather from a love juice called squirt; the G-spot is not initially pleasurable when stimulated, but rather develops into an orgasm as it is continuously stimulated.

The portio is a pudgy organ in the vagina that goes from the vaginal opening to the farthest point and ends at a dead end.

At the time of birth, this opening of the cervix opens and the baby comes out of the womb, but it is normally closed tightly.

The portio is also not an organ that feels orgasmic at first, but as it develops, it becomes a strong orgasmic sex organ.

The orgasm you feel in the portio is far more pleasurable than the orgasm you feel in the G-spot.

However, only about 10% of women are able to feel orgasms in the portio.

Continuous Come (Multiple Orgasm)

Women can also feel what is called continuous come (multiple orgasms).

Men have a refractory period after ejaculation that is called the refractory period, but women can have multiple orgasms without pause.

The best time to feel multiple orgasms is in the middle come.

Porcupine orgasms in particular leave a great afterglow of pleasure, and when you orgasm again in the afterglow, you will be in a state of ecstasy.

So the lingering effects of a portio orgasm can last for tens of minutes, and it’s easy to go into a state of ecstasy during the lingering effects of a portio orgasm.

By the way, not all women can feel multiple orgasms, and not all women can feel multiple orgasms.

It is important to understand that the way you feel orgasms varies greatly between individuals.

The difference between men and women’s orgasms

The way men and women feel about orgasms is very different. From the object of arousal to the way we feel pleasure, they are different.

If you don’t understand these differences and live a normal life, it’s only natural that there will be misunderstandings and differences of opinion about sex.

Next, I’ll explain what exactly the differences are between the orgasms of men and women.

Difference in ways in which they get aroused

The object of excitement for men and women also changes.

Most males are aroused by a sex scene featuring a female romantic partner, while females can be aroused regardless of the gender of the characters.

Also, as a trend, men are more likely to be aroused by direct visual or olfactory stimulation, whereas women are more likely to be aroused by the situation, the relationship with their partner, and the affection.

If anything, women are more imaginative and good at fantasy.

It is often said that women have orgasms in their brains, and I think this makes sense, don’t you think?

In ancient times, men were originally creatures that hunted outside.

Therefore, they are very good at following a moving object with their eyes and judging it by its smell.

In contrast, women’s role was to raise and protect their children in the village. They are very good at listening, communicating and imagining things.

I believe that these vestiges of the past are also related to orgasm.

Does a woman feel ten times more than a man?

It is said that women feel 10 times as strong a sense of pleasure during sex as men do.

However, this is only for women who are able to develop orgasms.

Many women don’t know what an orgasm is in the first place, as research shows that roughly half of healthy adult women who have sex don’t know what an orgasm is.

However, if women can learn to feel orgasms, they can feel so much better than men.

It’s also the women who make the pleasure last longer.

While male orgasms last only a few dozen seconds at most, women can feel orgasms for tens of minutes at most.

If you continue to feel orgasms for several tens of minutes, it might affect your health a bit, but this is not a problem.

As a side note, orgasms can have a positive effect on both women and men. More on this another time….

The difference in sensory sensitivity between men and women

The perception of sex also differs between men and women.

Whereas men have sex to pursue pleasure (or physiological needs), when women have sex, it is often to confirm affection or to be aware of their relationship with their partner.

Of course, this does not apply to all people.

The importance of understanding how men and women feel their orgasms

As I told you above, men and women differ in everything from the object of their arousal to the way they feel pleasure and sensitivity. Understanding these differences in each other is essential for an amicable relationship with your partner.

There are two reasons why it is necessary to understand how men and women feel about orgasm

  1. building trust with your partner.
  2. Improvement in technique

Let’s explain each of these in detail.

Building Trust with Your Partner

Understanding the differences between men and women’s orgasms can help build trust because you can show your understanding of your partner without forcing your partner to do anything about it.

For example, if you understand that men have a refractory period after ejaculation due to the hormone prolactin, you can say, “I want to have sex with you again, but you won’t! I don’t have any affection!

If a man understands that a woman’s sexual zones need to be developed, he will not say, “Why can’t I have an orgasm even if I use all my techniques?

If a man understands that a woman’s sexual zone needs to be developed, he won’t be in a hurry to ask “Why can’t I have an orgasm with my technique?

This kind of mutual understanding leads to building trust with your partner.

Improvement of technique

Improving your technique also progresses more when you understand the differences between male and female orgasms.

Technique is not something that can be managed by simply making the most of your skills.

You need to know the point of your partner’s feeling, the intensity of feeling, the situation, etc., and use it appropriately.

If you don’t understand how the other person feels, it’s just complacency.

Technique and communication are only as good as the other person. You need to understand the other person to be able to communicate with them. It’s a matter of understanding the other person.


In this article, I explained the difference between male and female orgasms.

Men have ejaculations…and many of you may have had a vague understanding of them.

there are different types of orgasms, and knowing how they feel together can help you understand your partner better.

Understanding how men and women feel about orgasms can help you have better sex than you do now.